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Reflections


If you are interested in sharing your own reflections on being a pastoral counselor or on pastoral counseling in general, please contact me. We would love to share your story too.

Sincerely,

Dawn Stary
Co-Chair of the Pacific Region
 


Dear Friends and Colleagues,

This is the second installment in the Pacific Region's series of reflections from pastoral counselors in the region. This month Dr. Ewing shares his reflections from being a pastoral counselor these past several decades and shares his wisdom for the future.


June 1963 I walked into the doorway of St. Louis State Hospital to begin my first unit of Clinical Pastoral Education. I felt a deep visceral stirring that I was at home. This awareness was at the heart of my personal and professional being.

My development as a pastoral counselor started in that moment and that summer under the supportive guidance of Leon Kenny, a supervisor in the Institute of Pastoral Care (a forerunner of ACPE). This led to my study at Eden Theological Seminary who had just initiated the STM program in pastoral counseling, under the leadership of Bill Rogers. These years of the beginning decade of AAPC were a dynamic exploration and development of professional pastoral counseling.

I share this personal beginning because pastoral counseling is both a sense of being a Pastoral Counselor and the skill and art of practicing Pastoral Counseling. Being a Pastoral Counselor comes from carrying a personal sense of inner identity at the center of our being. That inner sense is nurtured and expanded as we encounter our growing skill learned from multiple counseling relationships with the many persons seeking help, guidance, and healing. That sense of being a pastoral counselor is the openness to enter the life of another in sacred respect of the very being of the other.

Being a pastoral counselor generates the growth and skill of practicing the art of pastoral counseling. This is the art of timely and insightful intervention to help a person discover and draw from the depth of their human and sacred resources. That skill is founded on the understanding of personality functioning gleaned from research and observation of human behavior, both in individual and social dynamics. That skill comes from supervised practice of helpful listening and timely interventions and interpretation. That skill comes from self-awareness of how our own person functions in relationships of counseling and therapy.

Being a pastoral counselor and practicing the art of pastoral counseling are intrinsically connected. Each dimension has its own grounding yet function in concert together. AAPC has always held the dimensions of being and practicing as the defining elements in training and certification. In this new time of AAPC organization may we hold in sacred trust our sense of being along with our skill in pastoral counseling.

Dr. James W. Ewing

 

 
Pastoral Witness
 
By Christa McNerney, Ph.D.
 
One of the most gratifying facets of being a pastoral counselor has been the experiences I have had in helping clients traumatized in childhood to find and develop their positive experiences with God.

I found that the majority of clients who came to me with childhood abuse stories had internalized a powerful, and demanding parental God. This God was hard to satisfy, quick to point out failures and ready with shame and condemnation. Even those coming from homes with ostensibly “good theology,” had been deeply affected by the twin humiliations of being completely disempowered and forever failing to take care of a parent(s) as they thought they should. Those whose abuse was sexual also bore the shame of being inescapably “bad.” Participating in actions they intuited to be “bad” shamed them deeply, but any resistance or refusal made them just as bad. They could never appear before God as anything but bad, filled with shame and self-condemnation.

However, in each case there were also at least some experiences of a “good God.” With one there was the meadow creek she visited as a child to escape from her sexually and intellectually demanding father and parentifying mother. She had one aunt who let her be a child and nurtured her creativity. And she had the ability to deeply absorb positive biblical stories. Another client also found solace in nature, this one in the redwoods of the pacific coast and the ocean itself. Friendships, music, and her church community were also resources from which we could draw. The third client could enjoy nature and allow herself to be relaxed in the outdoors.

However, her tight control over all the facets of her life could be released only in the memory of the angel who appeared at her bed when, as an eight-year-old, she was contemplating suicide. The image of this protective spirit helped her to gradually trust in a faithful God.

As each of these clients and I nurtured positive memories, the god of demands and condemnation very gradually began to be eclipsed by a God of understanding, care and joyful acceptance. Not only have I been privileged to participate in the growth of these hard working clients but by allowing me to walk the journey with them these clients and others like them have been profoundly instrumental in deepening my own spiritual life.

I am grateful.


 

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